Interracial Dating & Marriage

I recently read a blog about a black athlete with a new reality show where he's "looking for love." The controversial part of this is that he dismissed the sisters immediately. Rumor also has it that he didn't even want the sisters on his show to begin with and asked that they be released before the show went to air. No surprise there.
What I found hurtful and irresponsible were the men who posted comments in support of this and in their justification, made a lot of bullshitty comments about black women.
They stated that only black women have a problem with interracial dating & marriage. Oh really?
Lots of people; black, white and striped have a problem with it. Don't blame black women for that. Next, they call black women who want to date & marry athletes 'gold diggers,' along with a few more generalizations about ALL black women.
I'm gonna take a moment to exhale here before I start.
Okay.
How can ANY man, let alone a black man even TRY to speak about what black women feel, experience and want. We are individuals, so how can you lump us all into one group and label us in that manner?
I'll tell you what I've experienced from others in general when it comes to being a black woman; hate, betrayal, deception, disloyalty, blame, pain and lack of appreciation. I've also experienced love, joy and hope. I'm no victim, not by any means, but I happen to believe that black women are the most disrespected people on the face of this earth. A big reason for this is that [some of] our own men do it. That makes us an easy target for everyone else. We have few who will defend us.
Back to the subject. I have no problem with interracial dating and marriage. I wouldn't even be here had my ancestors not dared to fall in love and marry. I've dated outside my race too.
Here is MY problem; some of the black men who only date non-black women have a chip on their shoulder about it, so they justify their 'preference' by disrespecting black women.
Why? If you are satisfied with your choice, then why defend it at the cost of degrading your own race? Why defend it at all?
Not taking full ownership of your choice is the problem here!
You don't want to date or marry one of your sisters? That is your choice, but don't make it our fault. That is your bag to carry.
Next, the gold digger comment.
What woman, black, white or striped doesn't want to marry a rich man? Why is it that most of the time, black women receive that label?
We aren't worthy of having a rich hubby?
We aren't supposed to live well?
We aren't supposed to want to have a comfortable life?
I also question the reason SO MANY black men, especially rich black men, serial date or marry white women? It seems like they equate their own worth with what society views as worthy. Status maybe?
True love is a beautiful thing and I'll welcome it no matter what color he happens to be, but I will NEVER sell out my beautiful black brothers.
This subject is controversial, no doubt and there are bad apples in all races and both genders, but speaking as a black woman, I've had to fight 3x as hard for everything I have and want. Jobs, pay raises, promotions, respect from my co-workers are things I have to fight for because no matter how qualified I am and no matter how educated I am, I still have to deal with racism, but fighting the disrespect from my own brothers is something I shouldn't have to do.
I remember stories handed down through my ancestors about what happened to the women in our family during Slavery, Civil War, The Reconstruction, Indian Schools, Civil Rights Movement and more. Black women could be beaten & raped by a white man at any time and she would be blamed for it. Black women were accused of 'casting spells' on white men and deemed as sex-crazed creatures that white men were unable to defend themselves against. Our black men were beaten or killed if they dared to defend us.
Those stories hurt. They will always hurt.
So when [some] black men who date non-black women open their holes and spout logical fallacies that send us right back to what our ancestors had to endure, it hurts us. There's a difference in that hurt because they don't HAVE to relegate us, but they CHOOSE to do it anyway. They CAN defend us, but they CHOOSE not to.
Why do we have to pay such a high price because YOU have a 'preference?'
Thank you ancestors, thank you for being strong enough to endure, brave enough to accept the consequences, loving enough to stand together and smart enough to know bullshit when you hear it.
I'm out.