One Man's Definition of Struggle is Another Man's Definition of Thriving

Okay, so I'm talking to a friend who is complaining about how hard her life is. She can't find a job, she can't get her husband (they've been separated for two years) to do his part, she has no money, the carpet in her house smells bad, she can't afford the dogs she has, her car is still in the repair shop, she has to take the bus to school and anyone who doesn't stop, drop & roll over for her when she needs something has some personal grudge against her. Sound familiar?
Because I have a lot on my plate and today was just not the day I wanted to hear such spoiled, ungrateful whining, I cut her off.
You're anxious to hear what I said, right?
She can't find the job she wants, so therefore, there are no jobs. She's a snob, so even though she's "struggling," humbling herself to work at a fast food place is still beneath her.
Her husband is a jackass. He was a jackass when they dated and she still married him, warts and all. Now all of a sudden we have to pity her because he's not doing his job? And she still refuses to divorce him? C'mon.
She lives in a house owned by her mother. So she has no bills. Any money she has is misused, hence the reason she has no money. How about eliminating your weekly marijuana/Paul Masson wine budget from your life?! Yes peeps, Paul Masson!
The carpet in her house smells because she has two dogs, nuff said.
Her car is still in the repair shop because someone else is paying for the repairs, she's whining because her car situation is not at the top of their list.
She can afford the dogs, but must they eat 'Beneful' if you're on a budget?
She takes the bus to school on the rare occasion her mom can't do it. Lots of people, myself included, take the bus to school, what's the problem?
If her special order burger is taking too long, then there's a conspiracy at work. The dude working the grill has a problem with her apparently.
If she doesn't get a call back on a job she's not qualified for, there's another conspiracy. No one wants "to see her get ahead." Does any of this sound familiar?
She has a warped idea of what struggling really is.
Dimples only get you so far, and then personality becomes a huge factor.
I say all of this to make this point, she has a better situation than most. She is such an ingrate that she can't see how much is actually being done for her.
I welcome a chance to not have to worry about rent/bills.
I wish I could give my daughter a dog, but we can't afford it.
She has vices and luxuries and lives past her means. Even her dogs have designer dog food and someone else foots the bills for her comfortable living. Is that struggling?
I'm not going to whine about my own personal struggle, because what difference does it make?
People outside her little bubble don't jump at her request because they don't have to.
Most will help you if you're helping yourself, I see that, I live that and it is true.
No one will help an unemployed married woman in her 40's with a bad attitude, a sense of entitlement, two kids, two dogs, living in a nice home, eating 3+ squares a day, partying on the weekends, blowing off any chance for a real education, blaming everyone when her lights get cut off while she's "Looking For Mr. Goodbar."
I'm out.